Spending quality time with Aging Parents and Grandparents
When I was young, I was sometimes afraid to visit my grandparents because as they aged and their behavior changed, I wasn’t comfortable with the new interaction. My grandparents had been the same since I could remember. They were always happy to see me, always offering me something to eat or a new life lesson to learn. They even looked the same to my young brain every time I went to their houses.
As we all age and our behavior and appearance change, it is important to remember that time spent together is all that matters, and making sure everyone in the family is aware of these changes is paramount. When memory or health issues arise, it is important to set proper expectations, especially with children and young adults, about how this interaction may be different than before.
As I work through the impact of my own Mother having memory issues, I try to keep focused on her enjoyment and what she values more than anything else: spending time with family. Ask the grandkids to show up (even if they are hesitant) because that uncomfortable feeling will pass, and a visit's positive impact on a grandparent living alone or in a facility is much more meaningful.
Turn off the TV if you can and try for some basic sharing. Here are a few ideas depending on physical capabilities:
Activities for Aging Parents with Mobility or Memory Issues
1. Simple Gardening
Activity: Planting flowers, herbs, or small vegetable gardens in pots or raised beds.
Benefit: Promotes relaxation and provides a sense of accomplishment. It can be adapted to seated positions.
2. Memory Scrapbooking
Activity: Creating a scrapbook with photos, mementos, and captions.
Benefit: Stimulates memories and provides an opportunity to reminisce and share stories.
3. Reading Together
Activity: Reading aloud from favorite books, magazines, or newspapers.
Benefit: Encourages bonding and intellectual engagement. Choose materials that are familiar or of special interest to them.
4. Gentle Exercise
Activity: Engaging in chair yoga, stretching, or light exercises tailored to their mobility level.
Benefit: Helps maintain flexibility and strength while being gentle on the body.
5. Puzzles and Games
Activity: Working on jigsaw puzzles, playing card games, or board games like Bingo or Memory.
Benefit: Enhances cognitive function and provides enjoyable mental stimulation.
6. Art and Craft Projects
Activity: Painting, coloring, knitting, or making simple crafts.
Benefit: Encourages creativity and fine motor skills. Adapt projects to their abilities.
7. Music Therapy
Activity: Listening to favorite music, singing along, or playing simple instruments.
Benefit: Music can evoke memories, improve mood, and provide a soothing activity.
8. Cooking or Baking
Activity: Preparing simple recipes together, such as baking cookies or making a salad.
Benefit: Encourages sensory stimulation and provides a shared sense of purpose.
I hope your visits are as great as they can be as we face some of these challenges together.